Therapy for thoughtful, conscientious people who are confident in many areas of life, yet privately struggle with social anxiety, self-doubt and wondering why social situations feel so much harder than they seem to for everyone else.
Perhaps you're confident at work. People trust you and see someone capable.
But around colleagues, friends or your partner's family, something changes.
You become quieter. You start thinking about how you're coming across instead of enjoying the conversation. Afterwards, you replay the evening, wondering why everyone else seems so much more comfortable being themselves.
Over time, it's easy to wonder whether the problem is you.
I don't believe that's the whole story.
I believe your struggles make sense.
Understand Yourself Differently.
Live Differently.
Hi, I'm Nina, a Cognitive Behavioural Therapist, offering therapy in Central London and online throughout the UK.
Together, we'll make sense of the experiences that shaped the way you see yourself, so you can stop trying to become the person you think you should be and start building confidence in who you already are.
Perhaps you recognise yourself in some of these:
You replay conversations long after they’ve ended.
You find it difficult to trust your own judgement.
You hold yourself to standards you’d never expect of anyone else.
You quietly wonder whether there’s something wrong with you.
I understand how exhausting it is to live with these thoughts.
Not because you're weak or lacking confidence, but because you're constantly monitoring yourself.
Wondering how you're coming across.
Trying to say the right thing.
Comparing yourself with people who seem naturally relaxed and wondering what they have that you don't.
Over time, it can feel as though you're living two different lives: the capable, confident version of yourself that people see at work, and the quieter, more self-conscious version that shows up in social situations.
It's exhausting.
It doesn't have to stay that way.
What if your struggles made sense?
Many people come to therapy believing that their social anxiety, self-doubt or low self-esteem mean there's something wrong with them.
I believe there's another way of understanding it.
Our thoughts, emotions and behaviours often make sense when we understand the experiences that shaped them. Rather than asking, "What's wrong with me?", therapy helps you ask a different question: "What happened that taught me to see myself this way?"
Because when you understand yourself differently, you begin to live differently.
Imagine no longer having to perform a version of yourself.
Imagine going to a work social, meeting friends or spending time with your partner's family without constantly wondering how you're coming across.
Imagine trusting yourself instead of second-guessing every conversation.
Imagine discovering that you don't need to become more outgoing, funnier or a different version of yourself in order to be accepted.
Therapy isn't about changing who you are.
It's about helping you feel free to be more fully yourself.
